Basically, this question is more interesting but a little bit confusing as well. I eagerly want to elaborate on this stuff as you are in a confusing mode, but let me tell you one of my interesting stories first.
One day, I was sitting in a garden and thinking about my life. I was depressed about my job and had the wish to become a content writer instead of a software developer but because of family pressure, I had to do that IT job. My mum also had an accident. She had a serious injury and got 17 stitches in her head. However, I left my IT job to take care of my mother. For one month, I took care of her and then went to search for a job again. I was confused about my career and there were a lot of rishtas coming for my marriage as I was turning 25. I was feeling stuck in life. I started thinking my life is full of problems only and I can’t do anything with them.
Hence, I was sitting in that garden, questioning God all the time. Ohh… god! Why me? Why just me? Why is this happening to me? Why this Why that ?..and suddenly one 5-year-old kid came in front of me with his dad! He had a cycle in his hand and he was learning it. He was trying to ride that cycle, but every time he tried he fell down. He asked a question to his dad: “Dad, why is this happening to me? Why couldn’t just I ride my cycle? Dad answered, “My dear son, please don’t ask me “WHY?”, ask me “HOW?” How to ride? I will surely give you an answer or teach you.
After watching this, I realized that instead of complaining about problems, I should focus on how to tackle this. As soon as I was asking myself how to become a content writer? how to stay positive in life? How to take care of my mum? How to convince my parents that I want this career, not an IT field? I started getting my answers and my life became easier.
So according to my story, if life throws “WHY” at you, give a high-five to life with “HOW.” Don’t complain, just think about how you could solve your problems. And one day you will see a better life in front of you.